Mentorship, is it important?

I am very coachable and enjoy learning new things but, in the past, I got easily bored and could be distracted by another project without completing the project I was on at that time. I was looking for a solution for many years. I was looking for an answer to the following question: What would be the thing that could help me stay motivated and focused on my work? 

At the end of the day staying motivated and focused on my work is so important for my clients and me! 

Have you ever thought about what is the most important element to succeed in life? I certainly thought a lot about it and found what is my key element to my success.

It is having the best possible mentorship! I have in my opinion the best mentors in my life!

The main ones regarding the business and personal development are Linda and Bob Proctor. You may know Bob from the movie The Secret. If you haven’t watched this one yet I recommend it highly as a great start point to what you can learn on the pages of this blog. 

Bob is in the personal development industry for over 55 years and his company Proctor Gallagher helped thousands of people worldwide get to where they want to get.

Linda is a phenomenal businesswoman who as she says spend her time helping people achieve their dreams and she is extremely good at that.

A few years ago, I’ve completed my master degree, started job in my field, as traditionally you would do, but something was still missing! I felt that I need to do something else but I couldn’t figure out what that was.

I change my job to work in the charity sector and thought that this will be the thing because all the personal development grow I’m doing I can use to help people at the charity…

Well I couldn’t be farther from the truth of what it is that I supposed to do! 

My dream was always to be a life coach and onstage speaker, motivating people to change…

But somehow, I was not following my bliss, my dream was just like a wish rather than a goal!

Then my life changed so dramatically during Christmas 2017 and life showed that I needed to really focus on my dream otherwise I’ll be not fulfilled, not happy and will not enjoy my life the way I want and of course my family will not be happy neither. 

Hence, I focused on my dream and started developing my business idea. I already have the personal development experiences and was also in sport all my life, all different sports in my youth and then capoeira since I was 18, so I decided to start my business as Fitness and Life Coach.

I love my business, yet what I enjoy the most about it is the mentorship as I found that being self-employed may sometimes be overwhelming as it seems that I need to do everything. However, with a great mentorship one can accomplish so much more! 

See all the top athletes, like Serena Williams and Michael Jordan, or tv/movie stars, like Oprah Winfrey and Leonardo DiCaprio, they all have mentors and that not just a mentor but the best possible mentor! The mentorship is such an important element of successful career that I’d like to invite you to answer the following questions:

In whatever you do, do you have mentors? And if so do they have excellent experiences that show they’re the experts?

In my opinion these questions are very important and you should answer them for yourself as mentorship is crucial for your success. Please feel free to share the answers here in the comments below or drop me a line if you have any questions about mentorship. My email is risadalifestyle@gmail.com.

Have a wonderful day!

Kasia  

Superhuman by Tammy Le Vasan

A beautiful friend of mine, Tammy, so kindly wrote a guest blog for my website that I just love and so recommend to read and reflect upon!

Tammy, thank you so much for this reminder!!!

Everyone said that having a baby would be life-changing. What they didn’t say is how it alters your own perception of self. I am 5 months postpartum and am only just coming back to feeling like myself in the last month or so. I know that I still have a way to go to fully feeling like ‘me’ again, but the question is: Will I ever feel wholly like myself now that I have gone through a fundamental change? Should I even be trying to? Or should I be aiming for something different?

While these questions floated about in the sleep deprived ether of my brain, I was also keenly aware of the ‘bouncing back’ narrative that was suddenly everywhere. It was what people were saying to me in the office, it was in the instagram ads on my feed, and it was also self inflicted. I would hungrily look for how many months postpartum other mums were and compare myself to them. This is wrapped up in society’s authorship of the female body, and is just another dichotomy we feel we need to make ourselves fit into: sacred, caring full-time mother, or doing-it-all modern mum. But it’s never that black or white.

So the first thing I want to say here is – this is you. It is normal and you’re doing great. You want to bounce back – I applaud you, get out there and shine. You want to hibernate – I applaud you, settle in for ‘slow mothering’. You can also be anything in the spectrum between those, and you can also be different things on different days. Because in truth, we can’t dictate our experience or control what feelsright. We have a tiny person to listen to, and we should respect them and what they need as well. What we can do is accept our experience and, wherever we can, find beauty in it. And where we can’t, we can find wine, ice cream, coffee, mac’n’cheese, Netflix… whatever it takes.

obrazek

Another thing I kept hearing was ‘women are superhuman’, or ‘mothers can do it all’. And while I agree wholeheartedly with this, I do NOT agree with what goes unsaid with this kind of thinking. We are superhuman, so we can function with a handful of fitful hours of sleep, and still take care of the house, clean, cook, work and keep a tiny human alive? Nope.

I mean of course we can, we are pretty great after all. But that doesn’t mean we should. I am more than a Superwoman, more than a Mum. I love a walk around exhibitions, I love all things food related, I love getting stuck into debates over bottle(s) of wine, andI am also lazy, greedy, vain and reckless. Sometimes I just want to be those things, and being a perfect mum doesn’t allow for it. So let’s claim being imperfect, and let’s allow our partners to step up to the plate, because they sometimes want to be superheroes too.

On the subject of partners. Another question knocking about is how do we raise a child in an equal household? Being the caregiver and traditional ‘mum’ character in a house tends to mean you don’t have the time and headspace to be the clown, the spontaneous one and the fun one because you’re the one making sure there are clean clothes, a comfortable house and healthy meals ready (not to mention all the planning and admin that comes with having children). But now and then, I would like to be the one that throws caution to the wind. In addition to this, I would like my son to see a male figure being a homemaker and caregiver, so that he can be the same when he is older. Most importantly, I don’t want my daughter growing up feeling that this is the role that is expected of her gender.

Mum’s need not be one dimensional caricatures that fit into society’s ideals and dictates. Let’s celebrate the differences we all have.

So when I ask the question ‘do I feel like myself?’ the answer is no, not yet, but yes, that iswhat I want. I don’t want to be ‘Mum’. I want to be Tammy – all the things that go with being Tammy, and now a parent as well. And I want the same for my partner, and for my children. We should make space for us to exist just as ourselves, and for all of us to be superheroes (if and when we choose).

Tammy Le Vasan (follow @tammymeaculpa for more mum thoughts)