A project that is not scheduled in your calendar is not an important project!

Often when I’m away my mind slow down and I feel I can accomplish anything. I wish to take this peace of mind with me anytime and anywhere I am! Hence when I again caught myself on wanting to make things happen but not fulfilling all my plans, I though I need to rethink my actions.

For years I wonder “what is wrong with me?” I have such amazing dreams, I wanted to have a balanced family and work life, I wanted to have my own business, I wanted to be a motivational speaker, I wanted to travel, I wanted to not miss any more family occasions, I wanted to attend Capoeira regularly, I wanted to meet up with friends and the list went on and on and on… although I had that all in my head I used to struggle with actually making it all happened!

So what was wrong? Ok, many personal development gurus are saying that you need to have a dream, a goal and then with a small step approach you are just going for it. Sounds good, isn’t it? Following their advices, I set my goals, I then did many steps, bigger or smaller to get closer to my goals but it often felt that I’m not doing enough.

The reason for that was the fact that I was not regular with what I did! I then came across an idea that if I won’t schedule the projects I want to focus on in my calendar, they will never be done. So I started scheduling and…

it changed my life forever!

I’m so much more focused on my projects and I’m more productive because I know how much time I have to complete a specific task.

Are you overwhelmed with many tasks and projects? What’s your solution for making it all working together?

I look forward to hearing from you!

Until the next time,

Kasia

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Only when you slow down the magic happen… and what about all this tapping

As I mentioned in one of the previous post, there is this song that I learnt years ago when I was a scout… in a loose translation it says you must rush otherwise you can miss so much. I’ve unconsciously lead my life by that. I was rushing and trying so many things just to be sure that I’m not missing on anything.

Then I got to my 30’s and give birth to a beautiful baby boy and my life needed to slow down at least physically. There were days that I was sitting on the coach almost all day as the little one was constantly hungry and then fall asleep after a few sips just to wake up 10 minutes later or when I was just putting him to his cot. Can you relate?

These days I maybe slow down physically but my mind was going crazy. I was thinking what I would do if I could only stand up from the coach. I stress myself out because I was overthinking and then stressing even more. I then rediscovered the tapping technique that really saved me. I found out about it from The Tapping Solution and practice it for several months before it got too usual for me (that one of my blocks – starting so many new things – I’ll write something about that soon).

During the first months of being a mum tapping was the thing that I could do while sitting on the coach. When I felt overwhelmed tapping was there to support me.

Here you have the outline of how I do tapping:

Firstly, measure my feeling on a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being the issue is unbearable, 1 being it’s all well.

I then start with an opening statement that’s followed by rounds. The opening statement goes like that:

“Even if (state the challenge), I choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself”

You repeat that 3 times tapping gently on the side of your hand then continue with the rounds of tapping on the rest of the tapping points.

Start the rounds with the Eye/s Brew point saying your issue and then continue on the rest of the points until you finish with the Top of your head.

You state your struggle on each point. You may be surprise by what comes to your mind in association with the issue. State it out loud and write it down after you finish as maybe there is another avenue to improve.

There is no specific number of rounds. I feel when to stop as I start to feel better and after a few rounds I take a deep breath and measure myself again on the scale from 1 to 10.

Thank to tapping I slow down and although I sometimes have days where I overthink and overwhelm myself but I can always use this amazing tool to get back on track 🙂

I invite you to try it for yourself.

Until the next time,

Kasia

 

Others influence you but you can Take it or Leave it!

There were many people who influenced my choices in the past. I’ve asked for advice from some of them but also was faced with some strong advices from others. Just recently I have realised that I have been under the influence of one person and because of that I decided to play small and never show any sign of working on my business, Risada Lifestyle.

The reason was: “What would that person say and think of me?” and the realisation of this was such a phenomenon for me which triggered lots of great work around self-worth and feeling enough.

It triggered lots of questions like “Why did I act in the way to please other?” Why do I put myself second?” “Why do I play small?” Well I realised that the answer is “I am a people pleaser”. I personally don’t want others to think bad about me and in the past I would do everything possible so that they like me. In that way I often sacrificed my happiness as I wasn’t attending to it but rather to the happiness of others.

BUT it all changed with the realisation!

It’s so important to attend to your happiness first before you do anything else because if you are happy you can share this gift of joy with the world and you do so much better. It was so great to realised that I was under this influence because I now can change it, improve my life and attend to my happiness.

Do you have any people who influence you in a negative way? How do you tackle that?

A thought to remember: others influence us and it’s down to us to decide if we’re taking that on board or leaving it.

Lastly let me highlight that we all have a set of experiences that we pick up along the way and yes, we can share them with others and be of service and that’s what I’m striving for here. I love to help people accomplish their desires and I can help you. Get in touch and we’ll have a chat.

Have a beautiful day!

Kasia